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INTRODUCTION:
When it comes to numbers, the open relationship is difficult to make work. There's just not a lot of people out there who find that swinging - which is, just so we're all on the same page, having sex with different partners - needs to be an essential part of their lifestyle. For me, the challenge wasn't simply finding a partner who felt the same way I did about this, but of finding a community that we truly felt comfortable in.
There are plenty of club options, by which I mean actual venues that are run like nightclubs, where you become a member and go there on a Friday or Saturday night and meet and mingle and dance with hundreds of other members and then maybe get intimate them in some private or public rooms in the back area. But neither me nor my partner ever really felt comfortable doing that. We weren't 'clubber-type' people. Fortunately, when it comes to more low-key, almost old fashioned swinging (like key-parties back in the seventies), there is a great organization based out of southern Boston called DB Socials, which is much more our speed.
Keep reading below to learn all you need to know about the DB Socials, here on EasySex.com!
ABOUT:
DB Socials has been around for about twenty years, starting in Bridgewater, Massachusetts, and it is unique in the world of sex and swinger clubs in a number of ways. The venue is not a club, but rather a privately owned residence, and that can immediately change the mindset you have for when you arrive. Which won't be that often, because events are only on alternating Saturdays (with very few exceptions). Even more surprising is that each event permits a maximum of only fifteen people. This can completely change the dynamic of the night, since it's a small enough number that there is little doubt that you will at least chat with each person briefly as the evening goes on.
It certainly shrinks the size of your prospective partners, but strengthens the bonds that you'll have with the people who are there (which can certainly add to the intimate moments to come). This casual attitude (while still strongly respecting consent and dignity when the play begins) can be seen in many ways. There is no dress code, you're encouraged to bring your own drinks and snacks and reservations are on a first come (or really first call or email), first served basis. While the organizers are very friendly and accommodating and will try to make sure you have a great time, there's not a staff to wait on you hand and foot, so it's much more like attending a neighbour's party, only here you'll start to get naked after the first round of drinks.
FEATURES:
-location of the venue is about half an hour outside of Boston
-events have been held for two decades now, so clearly the organizers know how to throw a swinger party
-party have a fifteen person limit of attendance, and it is expected that everyone be social and engaging throughout
-reservations are required, and they are made in the order in which they are received
-parties are on every other Saturday night
-if you cannot attend, you must call to cancel, otherwise you may not be welcome to future events
-while primary catering to Boston and the wider New England region, out-of-towners are certainly welcome, and club organizers are willing to offer plenty of help in situating these guests
-couples and single women welcome
-open from 7PM to 12AM, although not admittance after 9PM
-despite its small party size, consent, dignity and respect are at the heart of the club's ethos, and anyone who cannot follow these rules will be immediately asked to leave
-all fantasies are welcome as long as all those involved are consenting
-you have to provide your own alcohol (BYOB), plus snacks and food are always welcome
-you must provide your own safe sex supplies and lubricants
-DB Socials is part of the North American Swing Club Association
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