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Put Your Best Kiss Forward: How To Be A Good Kisser

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Kissing is the single most important intimate action two people can do, so it goes to reason that the better you are at it, the better your relationships and hookups are going to be. But how can you know where you stand? How do you know what you kissing skill level is? It's not like the person you're dating is going to tell you that you suck at it - but you better believe they're going to tell their friends about it! This is just one reason why you want to perfect your kissing skills, and that's why we've dedicated this entire entry to exactly that. We give you the best tips on how to be a good kisser, from what to do with your hands and body, to how much tongue action to use, and more!

By the time you finish this article, you're going to feel more confident than ever going into your next date. From making your lips super soft and kissable, to what side to tilt your head when you're making out, we've got it all covered. The biggest thing is controlling the amount of slobber, and working your lips to activate the erogenous nerve endings in her lips!

Lip Tips

Your lips are your kiss calling-card, so what you do with them is extremely important in the kissing game - obviously. There's a lot more to being a good kisser than just how long to put your lips on her lips, but don't worry, because we're going to cover it all right here.

From how your lips should feel, to how much tongue should be involved, we fill you in the most need-to-know info on what it takes to be not only a good kisser, but a great kisser.

The Softer, The Better

The texture and feel of your lips matters, so don't neglect the parts that you need to kiss! It's not pleasant to rub your face against a rough, scaly-feeling mouth, so keep that in mind next time you're getting ready for a date. There are a few things you can do to prep your pucker for an enjoyable kiss. The first, and arguably most important step, is exfoliating. Hear us out! Sure, it might sound like something only women do, but it's definitely not, and you're only going to benefit from doing it. Exfoliating your entire face is great for your skin in general, but we're focusing on the lips for now, which is where you want to focus your attention prior to any date. It's really simple - just take some sugar, mix it with a dash of olive oil, and scrub that over your lips. Rinse with warm water, and voila! Soft as hell lips.

Part two of getting your lips kissably soft is to use some kind of lip balm. There are tons of unflavored and unscented lip products out there, so don't worry about smelling like a lady or having your date think you're strange. Put on a little bit of plain balm after you scrub while you're getting ready and you're good to go! Your lips will absorb the moisture, and they won't by shiny by the time you pick up your girl.

Watch The Slobber

This is huge. Unless you two are involved a very specific type of fetish play, never engage in a slobbery kiss. This is easy enough to avoid doing, but the first thing to do is be aware of the fact that you might be guilty of this. If this is you, change it immediately. Worst case scenario she's turned off, stops the kiss and you two part ways. But you can avoid this by simply giving a good, hearty swallow of whatever might be lingering in your mouth. Problem solved, now go in for the kiss!

On the slip side, you don't want to kiss with an overly dry mouth either - that's an equally awkward and unpleasant experience. A moist palette is ideal, so take a drink or chew some gum for a few minutes before the action happens. As gross is it might sound, it's a really important factor in making or breaking the quality of a kiss, so keep this in mind next time you're hoping to come off as a good kisser.

Tease The Tongue

This one depends largely on the scenario that you're in, but it's safe to say that if you aren't sweaty and naked, then you should probably cool it on the tongue. A sloppy tongue while you're making out outside of the bedroom isn't good, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't use any tongue. Think of it as teasing, and only give her a little bit of the good stuff when you're kissing. Taste her, but don't explore every inch of her mouth with your tongue - again, unless you're hot and heavy in the bedroom.

If you're on a first date, and want to know how to be a good kisser, avoid the tongue altogether for the first time. Plant one on her and linger for a few seconds, but unless she initiates it, don't assume that tongue are in play right away. Not every situation or every kiss calls for a make-out session. Lips are just as much of an erogenous zone as the tongue - more-so, even!

Body Language

What you're doing with your body matter just as much what's going on with your mouth, so don't forget about the rest of you while you're making out with a hot a date. Appropriate kissing body language sort of depends on what kind of scenario your date is - are you're on a date hookup, or are you're on a legit date with someone you could want to pursue beyond sex?

Obviously the kind of message you want to send differs here, so act accordingly. Each part of your body should be in on the action, so don't just lean forward and plant your mouth on hers - there's more to it then that, but it's not complicated.

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Head

Whenever possible, engage in the tilt. Tilt your head to the left or right, countering to where she's headed (see what we did there?) to avoid an awkward collision. Straight-on kisses are odd, and they're just as awkward to correct once you've started, so when you're going in for it, keep your eyes open long enough to see which way her head is going. If she's going for a straight-on, tilt your head either way, whichever comes naturally to you, and go for it.

It's not just about head positioning here, it's also about strategy. Once you two start getting more hot and heavy, the first signal that either of you are getting more into it is the movement of the head. Think about it - when things really start escalating, it's because one of you moves yourselves to move in and really get in there. Before you know it, you two are going at it like crazy, and it all started with you changing your head position to get a deeper kiss.

Hands

Ah, the hands. The ultimate mystery - what the hell are you supposed to do with your hands when you're kissing a girl? Do you feel them up? Put them in their hair? Grab their ass? First of all, calm down. Second, it depends, once again, one the kind of situation you're dealing with. If it's understood that you and your date hookup are going to be having sex, then there are a lot more options on the table. For instance, you can totally feel them up (if you're not in, like, a restaurant), or grab their ass or hips.

But if you're on a first date, or any date with someone you really don't want to blow it with, then you have fewer options, and more at stake. To be safe, keep your hands above the waist unless she directs them otherwise. The best romantic options are one in the hair, and one on the waist, or both on the cheeks - basically, anywhere near her face is a safe bet. Don't get weird with it, though. Take cues from the chick flicks you've been forced to sit through in the past. If Ryan Gosling does it, it probably works.

Hips

This is a tricky area, because at the end of the day what it comes down to is whether or not you want her to feel your hard-on. If you're kissing your partner, or someone that you're hoping to have sex with, gently pushing your hips into theirs is a positive move. In these cases, they're more than likely going to respond by pushing theirs back, and things escalate naturally from there. This is not something you want to do with a new date. If you're out with someone new, especially a first date, then keep your hips close, but a safe distance away from theirs. Basically, don't push up on them. Be respectful and do what feels natural, and your kissing skills won't be questioned. The worst thing you can do here with this kind of body language is come off as a creep, so if you can avoid doing anything that would put you in this category - like pushing yourself up on a woman uninvited - you're in the clear.

Eye Spy

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Not everyone knows what to do here, and that's evident by the tons of bad kiss horror stories online and in women's magazines. You really have two options when you're kissing someone, and those are to keep your eyes open or close them. As a rule, you should always close your eyes when you're kissing, because it can be unsettling to open your eyes part-way through a kiss and see that person staring straight back at you. The view from that angle is also not flattering, so there's nothing great to look at by doing it. Close your eyes and enjoy the kiss - focus on the sensations, how you feel, your next move - and don't worry about what your eyes are doing. You don't need to see to enjoy a make-out session, you only need to see for what comes next!

Final Notes

Some people make noises when they're making out with someone, but remember, there's a time and a place for stuff like this. Some women find it very off-putting for a guy to be moaning into her mouth when they're just kissing, so play it by ear with each new girl you're with. See what she does - if she starts audibly showing her enjoyment, quietly begin to do the same. Take note of where you two are though - if you're in a popular public date spot, then you obviously don't want to be engaging in a full-on, passionate make-out session. Save it for when you two are in private, then go nuts!

On the whole, it's a good idea to let your date take the lead, and take cues from her when you're in doubt of what to do next. To really be a good kisser, you have to be able to read the room, and know what kind of scenario you're in. If you're on a hookup date, then chances are you're going to get laid. Your kiss is going to be less restricted and more passionate than if you were on a more intimate date with a partner. But if you don't know for sure that sex is on the table, take hints from her until you are. Figure out what she wants, then figure out how to please her!

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